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Originally Posted by doggiedo
It's good you are reaching out. I think that's a big step, and it's good you'd re talking to a counselor. Maybe you can bring your wife to a session that you have with your counselor and see if you can come up with ideas on how you would like her to support you, what you need, etc.
Another option would be to get a separate marriage counselor to delve into what seems to be going on with you and the wife. I do wish you luck. I, myself, have dealt with depression and gone through a divorce. I think the hardest thing to do is exactly what you are doing = trying.. And it's the best thing you can do, too. So keep it up! Hang in there
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We have went to some marriage counseling sessions. They were helpful and I tried to make things work, but I don't really feel like being with her anymore. I think she has broken my trust and I will not be able to forgive that. As in general I don't enjoy spending time with her anymore. I tried and we went on out some dates, but I can't let go of what she did and I don't think I should. Staying with her I don't see many pluses for me. I can deal with her financial issues and even her weight. I didn't like those things but they were bearable. The emmotional affair is too much. Trust is too big of an issue with me and I cannot keep doing it without having good faith the person is going to be there for me. I don't expect every moment to smell like roses, but I have no faith she will be there for me in my time of needs. I tried openeing up to her about my depression and letting her in. She responded by having an online affair. I don't think there is coming back from that and I can't find many positives other than I wont be alone.