I feel your pain. Sometimes it's easy to think keeping one's mouth shut might have been better.. It might have preserved the fantasy. I think it's interesting that he didn't put you down for your thoughts, which many men would have. They would have accused you of clinging. Your bf simply stated what he had to offer... brutal honesty. Are you in or not. Perhaps you were paraphrasing him, but when a guy tells you directly that he is an a hole, how can anyone with any sense of dignity stay with him? I am going thru a breakup after 3 months. This is not what I wanted... complex situation. But I have suffered, so am empathetic to the pain. Still, he is making it difficult to stay!