I think my biggest issue with BPD is that I don't always know what to watch out for with it. With having ADD, Anxiety,Rapid mixed bipolar and BPD I have a lot of things I am trying to sort out and work on...with all of it and it will be a long process I am sure even just to learn coping skill but I am going to put my all into it.

well one of the biggest things I can totally tell with my BPD is my constant feel of fear of losing people that means something to me in my life.

This last few weeks I lost several friends and lovers, because my bipolar was acting up due to being on a cocktail phase with my meds and lithium was simply not a good mix for me. But I had to aslo deal with the side affects and how this impacts my BPD and my abandonment issues. me and my best friend have been on and off fighting over trivial things. And I have no idea why, the only thing I could even think of is that I have made friends with an old ex of her's and we talk fairly often and have become close.

I am taking a break from dating right and so is he but we seem to like each other as people and being attracted to each other but naturally its difficult for my friend to see us getting so close when she is close to him and was "with" him at one point in her life.
So my abandonment issues have been tested a lot these last few days and weeks all I can do is hope your friendship can hold together. I am giving her space and hoping things will just roll over in time.