You Family situation is causing you much frustration. You are blaming your self to much and that is the root of your rage! Do not be overly Judgmental on yourself and cut yourself some slack. You want to throw things you own because you feel you don't deserve them.

Anger is normal, just stand down on the self hate. Know that your parents are not perfect and the negative comments they say about you may have nothing to do with you personaly, but have more to do with your parents anxiety and fears.