i met a girl 3 months ago. She is in her mid twenties and She came across as really independent, intelligent but selfish and insensitive initially. but as i got closer to her as a friend she revealed her traumatic past. her father was an alcoholic who physically abused her mother and her and she witnessed a terrible divorce in her teens.
she was then cheated upon by two of her consecutive boyfriends. we got real close really fast and she revealed intimate details of her painful past. in these moments, she came across more as an insecure child as opposed to the independent woman she usually projects herself. She was attracted to me and expressed love on numerous occasions. And yet later, she would also tell me she was commitment phobic and no guy would ever marry her because no guy would ever understand her. she has a drug problem and smokes hash every day.
she revealed that she has a problem crying and cries once in 3-4 years. she usually also has a problem expressing her emotions and feelings. Heavily influenced by ayn rand, she prefers talking about logic and rationality with her few friends none of whom know the details of her painful past. she feels more confortable showering love to animals than humans.
But everytime she would get close emotionally, she would withdraw from me. she would then speak rudely and try to push me away by her attitude. i showed great restraint in not abandoning her. when i would beg her, she would come back to me.
but eventually, she withdrew completely from the relationship that hardly last 6 weeks and stopped all communication all of a sudden. When i tried to contact her, she said she had found somebody else.
now i am left confused and hurt by her behavior. what exactly is she suffering from? what is the reason for her behavior? right now i have stopped all communication with her but would like to re start communication sometime in future when i am not hurting anymore. because i think she needs help.
any assistance on this would be great.how should i behave with her!