You are going to need to actually speak to this therapist. If you weren't talking, she was probably taking your lead and taking it slowly with you, assuming that you wrote the email because you aren't ready to talk about it yet. You write things in your post like "I told her" "I was showing her", etc., but if you didn't actually speak these things to her, she was only trying to respect your need to go slowly as your not bringing them up verbally seemed to indicate.

In another thread you said you hate this therapist. In this thread you say you won't be able (I read that as "willing") to be able to work with her efficiently. This is going to sound harsh, but you are going to have to make a decision as to what is more important here: being angry at this therapist because she isn't your old T, or finding ways to communicate and cooperate with this new T so that YOU can continue working on YOU. Right now it just seems like the biggest impediment to your healing is your unwillingness to even consider that this T might have something new and helpful to offer you.

I wonder if you somehow feel you are betraying your old T if you give this new T a chance. I might be off there, but it would fit with the intensity of the reaction you are having.

I know this situation isn't what you want, but it is what it is. You can to continue to put your back up and be uncooperative with this whole situation, or you can decide to truly give the situation a chance. The healing from your old T relationship doesn't (and really won't and can't) happen prior to starting with this therapist. It is going to be a slow and gradual process that will only come with time.

It seems like you are demanding it all happen NOW, but perhaps your care team is right in only dealing this out in very small bytes. They know nothing they tell you right now, no information they give you now is going to heal the open wounds you have. They know it is going to take time and right now want you to focus on YOU, which is most important. Are YOU willing to focus on YOU?