Could you change your perception of 'who you've been in the past' any? Could you change your view of your past self to see all you've been through and see it instead with compassion about all you've struggled through to get to the place you are now? Can you honor your experiences and yourself enough to say "I am a survivor"? Its not a vainly prideful feeling but it involves feeling strong and good because you've overcome some tough obstacles and you came through it with a positive attitude, loving your family and caring for others. I think it would be good for you to stand up and be strong. It would be good for your family also. You're part of your dad and he was a part of his. Your whole family line is a line of survivors. I wouldnt become vain, but its something to feel strong about.

Dad loves you. In his way, he's showing his love. Maybe it seems a little quirky to some, but has he hurt you? He's being himself, something I think he would want you to be. Best of luck and Gods good grace be with you.