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Originally Posted by BlessedRhiannon
1 - I feel trapped. That's the anxiety talking, I know. But, I feel like the other person is just too close, they're intruding in my space, and if I make physical contact, I won't be able to get away.
2 - Sometimes, I'm just being very sensitive to my environment and the other person's presence feels almost like an interference pattern with my own presence. I feel almost repelled by them (like you described - trying to shove two like poles of a magnet together).
3 - I need to feel mentally "connected" to a person before physical touch is comfortable for me. If someone I'm not feeling connected with on some other level, right at that moment, touches me, it feels very intrusive and unpleasant.
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These are some really insightful reasons. I can be sort of...not empathetic, and in past relationships I didn't care enough to really think about any of this before, but this guy's going to be my husband, so I figure I should get some handle on it.
To be honest, these three might really be it. I feel like that often, even if by myself, just in that kind of atmospheric situation. I have generalized and social anxiety, so the feeling of being trapped and being encroached upon without "warming up" first (see: being threatened, in my mind during those times) is huge.