I'm so sorry to have to keep coming back to this thread. I really have no idea why this is so difficult. I'm almost brave enough to send an e-mail and I don't know what's missing exactly.
One thing just occurred to me as I was rereading this thread.
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Originally Posted by Harmacy
I'd personally just keep the first one short and vague and see how he replies. If he's interested, you'll know.
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How can you tell? I honestly can't pick up on these things.
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Originally Posted by Harmacy
And the other girl, I emailed and she came straight back with a reply and we've now emailed on and off over the last year. I don't think she's interested romantically as could just tell from the tone of the replies.
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Again, how? How can you decipher tone from a written message? I really can't tell and I can see from all of your collective experience that I'm supposed to be able to tell and maybe that's why I'm so unsuccessful at connecting with someone to date.
And I'm afraid I've already messed it up enough that I can't do anything to salvage the situation. Most of the time he knew me, I was pretty unstable. I'm not like that now, but what if he's afraid of me?
And should I really mention something like going for coffee in the first e-mail? (if there is a first e-mail...) Just in case he IS afraid of me. I really can't tell how people feel unless they're obvious about it. Someone could just be acting polite and not like me and I would think that they liked me because they were being nice to me. I can't pick up on subtle social cues.