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Originally Posted by Sweetone93
I find when I easily lose my cool over these kinds of things that its a direct reflection of how little I am doing for myself. When I want their "gold stars" I stop earning them from myself. They are conditioned to depend on us and look to us to the ones to let it go.
If I were in your shoes I would make my daughter replace the chips out of her own money and finding a way to get them and remind hubby how easy it is to change the energy of a room to negative by being pissy. I feed off my husbands energy too and it took a while to show him that if he tempers himself I follow his lead, if he loses his patience, I also follow his lead.
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You know, I'm glad you said this because it is true with me to a certain extent. I've had days where I wake up feeling bright and optimistic and hubby's foul mood can damper that. I won't go so far as to say he dictates my moods but he definitely has an effect on them. I don't have a social circle and a lot of my day is spent with he and I in the same small space so I guess it makes sense. Also, he is my closest friend and so I care deeply about his feeling states. Perhaps a bit too much but then again, human relations and boundaries are tough for me in general.