Hamster, I gotta say, you totally get it. He's turned cold again. Thankfully it doesn't hurt as much as it used to. I'm just left to wonder how he can spend hours texting with me but won't call our son. The reality is, I can't make him the father he used to be or the father he swore he would always be. I guess he's hurting too. I can't imagine what it must be like to be forced to choose between your new wife and your firstborn son. I'm not the one making him choose. That's on them. Thankfully, I'm going camping for the weekend. I can turn the cell off and forget the stress. To answer other poster's questions: yes, I love my husband. I was intensely loyal to my ex husband though... So many days, I feel like having a new life is like cheating on him. Warped, no doubt.