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Originally Posted by RoseBee;3159114 Right now, I am working on cultivating a relationship with the kiddo in case my bf and I have kid so that my daughter (I want a girl..) will have an older brother figure. (Thanks Ham-Bam) :hug: end quote
I don't even know what advice to ask for this time.
So, I guess advice on how to grieve not being told about the kiddo up front and not becoming a little ball of darkness in the process? 
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You do mention, wanting a child someday, hopefully a daughter.
The root of the issue, as I am reading this, is the lack of honesty, right up front. Lack of trust, right off the bat, after being involved 5 months, and solidifying a relationship, *poof*, btw, I have a kid and need you to watch him 1/2 days 10 days(a year, did you say?)
PMS, impending testing, sure, it's triggering(hmmmm...I am going through both of those, too, right now..so um, wouldn't it stand to reason, you and I would be in the same 'angry' stages of grief
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So, I am going to say, it's the trust factor, first and foremost! This is not the life you envisioned with him, when you agreed to get serious!!