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Old Jul 12, 2013, 06:12 PM
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Originally Posted by mojo321 View Post

This guy seems like his intentions are good, but it sounds like he is getting a sadistic pleasure out of being the white knight, as you say.

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If you can't be the white knight now, but you are fighting for love against a white knight, you may just be ignoring the reality. DO what you need to do to BECOME a white knight. Not for her, but for you.

In my opinion.
That might very well be the case - the guy might be deriving all sorts of a twisted pleasure from playing the role he is playing. And, I agree with mojo321, if you are intent on playing the role of the white knight, she is not a good match for you. White knights, unlike knights in general, have the quality of not tolerating company. You said it yourself - the space she dedicated for a white knight is not vacant. So, there is no place for you if you want to be a white knight, and you should follow mojo's advice and find another damsel in distress - one who would say that the space of a white knight IS vacant.

With this woman, you should stay only if you can think of any other way of relating to her - of being somebody other than a white knight.