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Originally Posted by CheshireCatGrin
What sort of furniture is she offering to give you? What purpose will they serve in your place? Do you actually need the items? Do you have the space for them?
If the furniture she's offering to give you isn't actually useful, and if it can't replace the drawers or desks in their usefulness, then why not just decline taking their furniture? Perhaps part of the furniture your mom is giving you, she views as having more use to you than what you do have, and maybe she just doesn't think it would all fit into your home?
Because if you need the chest of drawers and they aren't planning on giving you anything else to hold your clothes in... it makes practical sense to keep the drawers. Although I don't know why you need two different desks - do two different people use them? Did your sister GIVE you the drawers, or did she give them to you on a conditional/loan basis?
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Thanks for your reply. My mother is giving me a wardrobe and a double bed and a bedside cabinet which I need to put in one of the bedrooms I have. It will be useful because I am thinking of letting a bedroom to a lodger and so need to furnish the spare bedroom.
I think it was just that I noticed that she didn't ask me what I would like - she just made the assumption that she could make the decisions for me and hasn't respected the fact that some of the furniture belongs to me. It seems that sometimes she views me or my possessions as an extension of her in some way. I feel disempowered when she does this.
The reason I would like to keep two desks is that I would like one in each bedroom for myself and one for the lodger to use.
My sister GAVE me the chest of drawers and said nothing about it being on a conditional/loan basis. I would be sorry to lose them, but my mum's logic is that if I'm putting them in the lodger's bedroom then my sister should have them back because she's more important than a lodger. But in the future I may have my son living back with me again and he would use them. My sister hasn't said anything to me at all - but she has spoken to my mum and then my mum took it upon herself to speak to me. I would have felt a bit better about the situation if my sister had spoken to me directly herself, but dislike my mum intervening in this way because it seems controlling.