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Originally Posted by haunted_by_my_past
So my question... to the ladies: when you start feeling this way, what in the world can possibly change my situation? Have any of you been in this situation where you found out this type of secret years later (with an otherwise perfect husband) and you could never get over it? As I see her continue to withdraw from me, is it possible that a separation could be a wake up call for her and force her to deal with her feelings? My fear is that it would completely backfire and she'll realize she's much happier without me.
Thanks.
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There are some things that, unfortunately, are deal breakers...even in otherwise perfect relationships. This may be one for her. I am in a relationship now and there is something I just can't get over. I have to make the choice to deal with it, even though I can't let it go, or leave. Currently, I am making the choice to stay. I don't know if there is any comfort in this for you, but there isn't anything you can do as the problem is hers and hers alone. *hugs* I am so sorry she can't accept that part of your past. I am also sorry that there are things that are deal breakers that some people, like me, just can't deal with and when we do, we tend to withdraw.
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