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Originally Posted by Bobbarita
Hi-I need your advice. Apologize for long post... First let me say I am 59 years old, have been married twice and the ink just dried on #2 divorce. It seems that mostly younger people post here but your age doesn't matter to me.
So what do you think? I should have wised up sooner shouldn't I? Is this guy a jerk or am I a bitter and angry divorcee who had a "rebound" experience? Is sexting just part of relationships now? (Hey, I haven't been out for 20 years!) Did I react too strongly? Are there men who just toss you around like a cat playing with a mouse and get off on it?
Any of your responses and/or insight appreciated. Don't mince words with me. Call me out if I deserve it. I want you're insight and experience as it's difficult to be objective. Thanks.
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(disclaimer, hun, I'm 38) It was new, it was exciting, 'wise up' sooner? Really hard to say. I feel you wised up, at a reasonable rate! I absolutely love what you wrote to him, as your final farewell! I, am divorced, three years, and frankly, I had back to back to back relationships into marriage, that added up to 19 years worth of time spent.
I did have an e-mail emotional friendship, after marriage, perhaps, my own 'rebound'. And, myself, I felt a little sore from that, no sexting, texting, but I did feel like I'd wasted my time, so to speak. (Or did either one of us really waste any time? Live to Learn, right?
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You asked not to mince words? Something to learn from this experience, and we call all learn from, initially, when this new beau started asking what's wrong, next time, would be to not say, nothing, just angry at the world, would be to be able to immediately, or near immediately what is troublesome. Otherwise, You got that post-marriage rebound out of the way.
Dating, in this new world, isn't easy to navigate. If you sense, they are emotionally unavailable in any way(may not be marriage, could be another friendship or relationship or even just not in an emotional frame of mind to give of themselves freely) would be to hone in on that, express your concerns and proceed from there
Happy 'fishing'
(er, um, shopping at Tiffany's)
