Some of my family, especially my narcissist oldest sister, who was given two houses by my parents (I got zip), make fun of my 1150-sq foot ranch house. We bought it all on our own, and it's paid for. We could get a much nicer house, but with the stress of a huge mortgage. And I don't care about having a big fancy house. Time is short, and there are so many more important things. If you've never had to deal with a Narcissist/Psychopath, thank goodness. My oldest sister - ok, I said brother before, in hopes my family wouldn't find my entries here - but I'm starting not to care - controls my family-of-origin. She heaps on abuse atop of abuse (trying to outdo my father ?) Done, so done with my father & my oldest sister's covert/overt abuse. I won't survive otherwise.