The first step to conquering this is acknowledging that one of the fears you will have to go against is the fear of treatment because you know logically that you need some help. Without treatment, this will not get any better. You need medical, professional help to get your fears and anxiety under enough control so that you can learn to take control of everyday anxiety and phobia attacks for yourself. Until you accept that professional treatment must be accepted for your own well being, you will continue to allow the fears to take over your life. I have Avoidant Personality Disorder and I kept myself in a box for many years and I was making my own life "safe" but miserable. I had to face my anxiety triggers, accept help, and learn to stop seeing myself as a victim from all angles. Once I finally began to see that I had the power of decision and choice of whether it would tell me how to live my life or I would decide to make life better, I took some of the power back from my fears. Good Luck