How often do you stay in touch with your family? How often do you visit them face-to-face? And how often do you call them? Message/text message them?

I have only seen my adoptive father's side of the family maybe once (or twice) at the most since leaving my home state back in 2005 (eight years ago). I'm friends on Facebook with some of them; we'll like each others posts occasionally and have exchanged a few "Hey! How are you doing?"'s very rarely.

My biological father's side of the family is another story - and why I'm posting here on this forum about this wanting to know what others' experiences are like. For starters, I lived with them for two years and then went to live with my mother's side of the family in another state far away. This side of the family is extremely poor - and would never be able to afford gas or a plane ticket to come visit me. I remet them in the early 2000s and even moved back to the state in 2005 to live with my mother and to also get to know this side of the family better. I always feel like they believe that I'm not seeing them enough, not talking to them enough, etc. I don't know if they want to make up for lost time or what - I think it's just how they are since the entire side of the family lives in the same small town (for the few that are making any kind of money - they commute an hour and a half drive one way to the area that I live in now) - and the majority of them live side-by-side on either side of the exact same road. When I moved to the largest city in this state (about an hour and a half away from them) my grandmother acted like I was abandoning the family, didn't want to be apart of it, how come I'm not happy there, what does XXX-place have that this place doesn't have, how come I have to move so far away from them (it's an hour and a half in the same state), etc. She's always messaging me saying that she misses me, wishes I could spend more time with them, etc. They don't seem to factor in that I work full-time, go to undergraduate school full-time, as well as have my own life and interests that are far different from theres. My brother feels a lot of anger toward me for not being his big brother and playing video games, playing sports, with the dog, etc. He even once told me to my face (around others), "You're not my brother. I hardly ever see you - I don't have a brother!" They seem to think that my wanting to move is a thing to do with age - and that I'll move back in a few years (which, I know this isn't true for myself). Or that I'm just young and that I'll wise up - not true also in the manner they are speaking of.

My biological father is the same way - I get the feeling/impression that he may be a little resentful that I only see that side of the family a few times per year. I see them almost every Thanksgiving, Christmas, family reunion (or party, held ever year), other big family events (great grandparents wedding annivesary, weddings, etc), and occasionally 3-4 visits from during the rest of the year.

I'm mainly attached to my mother's side of my family - and I see and talk them less (they are spread over the entire country, on this side you kind of grow up and live your own life) - but have less friction with them, more attachment, etc. No one feels abandoned - in fact, they seem rather considerate that I may be busy and will ask when would it be a good time to call since my school schedule changes each semester, etc.