You've misunderstood. I wasn't talking about getting taken care of or any parent/child dynamic other than the adult/child dynamic within myself. And as most things, mental / emotional well-being is on a continuum. So waiting til self esteem and confidence are at some ideal level level as a reason to not be in a relationship is possibly either self-punishment or avoiding avoiding the work inherent in primary relationships. I commend you for not jumping into just any relationship for the sake of being in one. It's important to also remember that relationships are key to inner development. It's easy being single. The tough work happens while in relationship. A balance is desirable in everything, including when to be in a relationship and when to not be in one... If YOU believe that YOU need more time alone then YOU go ahead. To make conclusions about what is going on with another person, especially in this setting, would be arrogant. How we word things matters.

And saying this is inappropriate and not helpful.
"Before you get into a relationship, you need to get yourself straightened out. Unless you can be confident, have self esteem and the ability to handle life on your own, it will come between you and anyone you date eventually."

You don't know me and certainly not from a post here and there. You make assumptions and jump to conclusions.