I dont usually advise other methods of harm due to cross addiction lol, but the elastic band has helped me in the past because you dont expect it to hurt as much as it does! Alot safer

It seems like you have a clear insight in to your feelings of the matter and where you want to go with it, which is great - you are giving yourself goals and that indicates strength. Ive just started a mood diary (i note the time, the mood and the possible trigger of each attack) maybe something like that would help you with your journey to recconect with your feelings?