I'm so glad you had the chance to bond with your father. I understand grieving for missed years. My father was in his late 70's before I ever found out he really loved me and was proud of me. I'm sorry your mom kept you apart. It is sad when parents work against each other. it is a shame you live so far apart.

Sounds like you have decided to stand on your own two feet and demand respect as far as you bf is concerned. I hope he comes around for you, but if he doesn't it's sounds like you will be fine. Good luck to you.
Gayle