I'm extremely attracted to my partner and him to me. I adore him completely and love to kiss and cuddle him and be with and laugh with him and have intellectual conversations. But we don't really have sex. Not that we haven't we used to a lot. We just have so much more going on now that it's really taken a backseat and neither of think that's a problem. I don't agree that that sexual attraction "I have to have you now" thing, has absolutely anything to do with a relationship.