Do you have meetups in your area? It's meetup.com (or meetups.com). Are you in therapy? It might be good to talk about how this relationship did or didn't meet your expectations, and what to look out for next time. Remaining friendly with your ex - I can see how you would want that to happen, but I don't see how that's a reasonable expectation of this person and what he wants from his life. He may be unreasonable by your standards, but he is reasonable by his own standards. I've just recently come to realize how my standards never matched my parents', and neither side was willing to bend. So we were both disappointed.