I have experiences like this. I am trying to work with my wife to be able to say when I feel them coming, like I can tell I am feeling shakey and destructive, so I ask for space. She doesn't like it, she thinks it's selfish, but I think she is starting to see the utility of it. I do mood tracking to help me realize when things are shifting and I may be headed for a destructive bout. There is an app called T2MoodTracker, do you use anything like this?
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MT