Just curious, what about him are/were you in love with? Seems like the problems are far outweighing the pros, and he's not seeking help (aka, there's no solution in sight).

Personally, I think that bipolar or not, he needs help. The fact that he's not seeking help speaks more about him than his diagnosis.

I have good days and bad days, and my boyfriend is stoic and supportive, but I'm TRYING. I'm working out meds and getting sunshine and seeing a therapist and reading books and taking an active role in trying to get better. I hate to see so many problems blamed on a diagnosis, because the fact is - he COULD be taking steps to feel better and be less of a jerk.