I agree with Dexter. I would add that it is unfair that someone would tell the person with lingering feelings to "suck it up". How very insensitive to that persons feelings. The people saying "suck it up" are being selfish because they don't want to have to feel the pain that is with in that person right now. Nor do they want to have to negotiate the tension that is inevitable if they are mutual friends to both people. The person with lingering feelings should be allowed to morn the relationship, to be angery, to be hurt, to feel all those feelings even if some people may think it more mature to stuff it all down inside. Stuffing it is not a healthy way, or emotionally mature way, to deal with ones feelings.
Carrie

<font color=blue>If you have two dollars, spend one on bread and the other on flowers. The bread will feed your body and the flowers will feed your soul."--Arabic Saying