WTH!? First off, I'm really sorry this happened to you. I'm really surprised and think that's ****** on their part. 95% of the reason I go to T is because they are bound to confidentiality. I would seriously think of filing a complaint on this T. It sounds like this T is trying to extort you by using your transference attachment, and hence abandonment, as a threat so you do what the T wants. I think that's F'd. I would ask your T the why question. What's T's motive?