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Originally Posted by Detia
Hey
Listen, we haven't gotten a therapist. Probably not getting one soon cause we're on a wait list. I need help with my host. This girl is seriously getting on my last nerve. She met some guy from work and has been at his house 3 times now and last night she spent the night a second time. He says he can be respectful I don't trust him. He slept on the floor last night after I tried taking over but my girl knocked me back down. Then heck broke loose it was kinda funny she couldn't stop squirming because we wouldn't leave her alone.
I'm here again and tryin to stay bc I'm so sick in tired of her freakin herself out. If you don't trust guys why are you going over and sleeping there and drinking? Shes gotta get a clue but Im lost and we got no support network for this ****.
Ryan
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hi Ryan. sometimes people have to have their own friends. you like having your own friends that the host or the others with you, cant interfere with right. you have things you like to do, you have you have things you hate doing. well the host is the same way. the host needs their own me time to form their own friendships, their own relationships, the only way the host can learn whats best for her is if she gets out there and develops her own network of friends even if that means shes going to get into situations the rest of you dont like.
theres a saying here the more you say no and prevent someone from having friends and developing their own intimate relationships the more they will seek it out, just to show everyone "I control my life not you"
maybe you can let go a bit, I know you are just trying to protect her but even parents have to let their children fall sometimes in order for the child to learn how to do things their self.
maybe you and the host can come to an agreement of some kind of working together, instead of against each other so that you both will be able to have a better life together.