[quote=ganbatte;3407030]I was in your shoes with 4 kids under 13 years old. He was the "breadwinner" and we had an ideal life when you looked in from the outside. He had little respect for women, and our daughters were seeing him disrespect me continuously. After 14 years of never being right, of my thoughts and ideas being dismissed, of being the glue holding the entire marriage together (among other, deeper issues) and his failure to acknowledge his contribution to the demise of the relationship, I had to leave.

I left finally because I was no longer "whole" and my daughters needed me to be whole for them to develop into productive members of society. It is better to come from a broken home than to live in one.

HI Ganbatte
I do agree with you about coming from but not living in broken home.
I hope you did find yourself and regained your self esteem.I wish you the best,be happy,and same to your kids. As for me I am still in limbo trying to figure things out,because he has both behaviors,but still I AM missing something important which he does not seem to realize
thank you,best wishes