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Originally Posted by will i get married
Just still going on with my relationship...
Seems impossible to leave... It has improved - My L is kinder now - not exactly kinder but he doesn't use abusive words anymore but I keep feeling like he is treating me as a criminal - someone who's under constant watch 24x7 - I don't have time for myself at all  .. It is okay if things were good and we had only occasional fights but, he isn't going to be over my past and says that till we get married, he will go behind my past as he has the right to(???? really ???).. He said that we can live all we want after marriage but now he wants to make sure I am trustworthy and he keeps asking me to prove that I am where I say I am if he is not with me..
Sometimes I kind of believe him and submit to all he asks... At least he isn't using abusive words anymore - but I am scared to be with him... I want to leave - only then I know that I can do something proper with my life - but I am scared and don't know how to |
I'm not familiar with your entire background. Was there something that you did during your relationship that gave him reason to not trust you? Or is this something about his nature?
I'm going to guess, as you say "the past" that he's just a suspicious person and paranoid. What you did in your past does not count for what you are doing now. Let the past be the past, unless you've actually broken the trust with him in the first place, then it is indeed hard to get over.
Going from that assumption, first off, he does NOT have any rights to your information unless you give it to him. he has no right to be watching your every move. On top of that your going with him on that and letting him be this way is only encouraging him to do so more. Do you think it will end like he promises when you're married? Hell NO. I can promise you, unless he gets help with his paranoia and trust issues, it will continue well into the marriage.