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Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.
Maybe I'm not exerting enough energy? I mean, since I'm not contacting him everyday like what the norm is.
This is the best and closest I've had to a relationship, I think I'll be fine if it's one-sided.  And he just may be really shy.
I mean, why ever respond at all and say that he did want to hang out with me/go on a date with me if he doesn't have interest? I don't understand what someone would get out of that.
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One of the things, asked of my, by my therapist, at the beginning of this year, after recognizing a pattern in my relationships, 'will I know when I have stayed too long?' The issue, with my repeated patterns, was that I was expending a lot more energy into them, than what I was getting in return, and thus created a pattern, of just staying several years, too long.
Why, settle for less than you deserve? This new friend of yours, yes, he replies back, on his terms. But he doesn't give back. Never mind, not take the lead, it's you, who initiates all the contact. All self-esteem issues aside, it's you who is doing all the work. It leads to being mistreated, door-matted, etc.
Will, you really be 'fine with this'? Considering your SI, side of yourself(I hope you don't mind my bringing that into this), isn't this the relational way of self abuse? I care, and I point that out. Just because, you aren't feeling confident about yourself, your sexual identity, et al, just because you are starting to find yourself, doesn't give anyone else the right, to not treat you like you matter to them, as much as they do to you!
