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Old Dec 05, 2013, 11:11 AM
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Originally Posted by mama pajama View Post
I just want these thoughts to stop. I hate it when a nights gone and I spent the night obsessing. I really have wasted too much of my life already, especially things that are out of my control and not worth my time.
I suspect you cannot make them stop just by wishing them to. And they do seem to affect you enough so that they are worth your time investigating why they are there.

My "illness" originally presented as internal "arguments" between "me" and "others" who wanted me to be someone I was not. It was a reflection of my actual childhood. Until I got the chance to find out who I was, regardless of what I thought others wanted me to be, and to get some support for the real me, I had no chance to resolve my problems. (I still struggle with them, but now I think I have more insight into what is going on.)

Not all therapists will support the real you. Some try to make you what they think you should be. They seem to need you to be someone who helps them. Don't fall for that! See if you can find one who listens for the real you.
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Thanks for this!
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