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I was concerned for a while to tell my T's that my H and I were swingers for years, stopped, and were starting again. I was concerned about what he would think of me, how he would treat me going forward, how it might make him uncomfortable, how he would associate it with my BPD traits. Well turns out they did not touch that subject with a 10 foot pole and never addressed it. Then again both T's barely even addressed my Bulimia........the reason I sought out treatment to begin with. Heck my second T just admitted he knows little about eating disorders, has no experience with it and never told me because he did not want me to think less of him or that he was not capable. We would learn together. This after 10 months. faceplant
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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