I'm sorry this all sounds so painful! I admire your ability to say how you feel and ask for what you need, as I struggle with both. I do wonder why your T is responding in this manner....it seems kind of perplexing as she has been so helpful to you up to now. I'm not sure what the course of action should be, but seems like this is something that one can't just ignore. Do you think she'd be open to exploring more about this with you? I do know that some Ts will share that they care about a client so I know it's not unethical to say so....just not clear on why the defensiveness on her part (?)

So sorry!! wish there was something I could do to help....