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Originally Posted by PeeJay
When I get embarrassed, I try to think that T's are like doctors: They've seen and heard it all.
Like, if I saw a naked stranger, I would feel uncomfortable and embarrassed for that person. But doctors see naked bodies all day long and so a boob is just a boob, so to speak. I'm not saying you or your issues are a boob!
T's are the same way. Only the nakedness is our secrets and our emotions.
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Haha, you're right PeeJay! You're probably right that they hear things like what I said so much that it just doesn't shock them.
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Originally Posted by rainbow8
Yes, I have but I know there must be a reason for what I told her about me so I got over it. It was some graphic sexual stuff. Even though you're embarrassed, it might be important. Usually what we say about ourselves in therapy IS, and T's don't judge us for it.
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I hope you're right that there usually is a reason why we want to talk about things. I got the feeling that my T was wondering what I wanted her to do with the information, but I didn't really know. After I said it, I kind of wondered why I felt it was necessary. I'm afraid that I'm treating my T as a significant other or something, in the sense that maybe I feel I have to tell her everything. I'll probably revisit the topic another time and explain to her why I think it's significant... through letter format though, haha. Thanks rainbow.
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Originally Posted by Leah123
I felt like killing myself the first time I disclosed something significant about the past to my therapist. That feeling lasted, at its worst, a few days. I kept breaking down in tears and anxiety, hiding from my family, clamping down on everything so I didn't just get out of control completely and do something awful. My therapist helped me cope with the backlash of my self disclosure and although I regret the pain I went through after telling, I no longer regret the actual session, well, at least not so much. It is only our secrets that can really hurt us in this context.
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This really helped me to see that others have gone through this too. I'm so sorry it was an awful time.
I know the embarrassment will fade eventually. Our secrets really can have a power over us. Everything feels so much more real now that it's out in the open and someone is walking around knowing.
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Originally Posted by HazelGirl
I feel guilty sometimes for talking about things, like it's a taboo topic and I should pretend things are fine.
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YES, I've felt exactly this way too. When I'm in the session, I'm thinking to myself "why am I telling her this, I can handle it. Why should I put her through knowing that?"
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Originally Posted by Favorite Jeans
My advice here: remain vigilant and inspect your butt every day for bite marks.
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Thanks Favorite Jeans.
