Have you ever regretted telling your T something?

Has anyone ever blurted something out or pushed through inner warnings and told something very personal, and then felt so embarrassed after a session that you don't even want to face your T? Have you ever regretted telling your T something, and wish you could take it back?

This kind of happened to me yesterday. I think I'll get over it after a few days and everything will be fine, but for now I keep cringing when I think about it. The worst of it is that I'm not even sure that there was enough of a reason to tell her what I did.

Yes, I have felt this way multiple times.

Sometimes, we say things in therapy that we'd never speak aloud in the rest of our lives.

When I get embarrassed, I try to think that T's are like doctors: They've seen and heard it all.

Like, if I saw a naked stranger, I would feel uncomfortable and embarrassed for that person. But doctors see naked bodies all day long and so a boob is just a boob, so to speak. I'm not saying you or your issues are a boob!

T's are the same way. Only the nakedness is our secrets and our emotions.

Yes, I have but I know there must be a reason for what I told her about me so I got over it. It was some graphic sexual stuff. Even though you're embarrassed, it might be important. Usually what we say about ourselves in therapy IS, and T's don't judge us for it.

What I wish I could take back, though I suppose it's also about me, is when I criticized my T about how thin she is. The words I used were very hurtful, and she even told me so, and asked what was my reason for telling her. I really don't know, and I apologized to her several times.

I felt like killing myself the first time I disclosed something significant about the past to my therapist. That feeling lasted, at its worst, a few days. I kept breaking down in tears and anxiety, hiding from my family, clamping down on everything so I didn't just get out of control completely and do something awful. My therapist helped me cope with the backlash of my self disclosure and although I regret the pain I went through after telling, I no longer regret the actual session, well, at least not so much. It is only our secrets that can really hurt us in this context.

I feel guilty sometimes for talking about things, like it's a taboo topic and I should pretend things are fine. But other than that, the only time I regretted telling her something was because she tried to help me work through it way too bluntly and it ended up being very difficult. We talked about it and about how to better handle that type of situation, so it ended up working out. But that's the only time I've consciously thought "I wish I hadn't told her this."

Unlike PJ, I actually think your issues are definitely a boob!

I totally get it. I have had to send my T anxious emails begging her to reassure me that I wasn't going to die of awkwardness and that she didn't hate me and didn't feel that it was way, way TMI. Luckily, she and I both appear to have lived through it. So far. Of course it could come back and bite me in the butt at any point. So you never really know. My advice here: remain vigilant and inspect your butt every day for bite marks.

That made me laugh!


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Actually not really... I always think that probably the've heard much worse stories and I don't pay them for liking me so I am not worried that I would say too much...

However, once I have said too much... Too many details about trauma and my previous T had no idea how to do trauma therapy... He was interested in details so I gave hime some of them - I was ill for two days afterwards, so I do regret telling him that... My current T said that we'll have many, many sessions before she "allows" me to tell her something more (now she only knows who and when but even not what) - I think it's a safer approach...

The hard part for me was only in the telling. I have no regrets as to what she does know, even as friends now. It's an equal relationship.

Haha, you're right PeeJay! You're probably right that they hear things like what I said so much that it just doesn't shock them.

I hope you're right that there usually is a reason why we want to talk about things. I got the feeling that my T was wondering what I wanted her to do with the information, but I didn't really know. After I said it, I kind of wondered why I felt it was necessary. I'm afraid that I'm treating my T as a significant other or something, in the sense that maybe I feel I have to tell her everything. I'll probably revisit the topic another time and explain to her why I think it's significant... through letter format though, haha. Thanks rainbow.

This really helped me to see that others have gone through this too. I'm so sorry it was an awful time. I know the embarrassment will fade eventually. Our secrets really can have a power over us. Everything feels so much more real now that it's out in the open and someone is walking around knowing.

YES, I've felt exactly this way too. When I'm in the session, I'm thinking to myself "why am I telling her this, I can handle it. Why should I put her through knowing that?"



Thanks Favorite Jeans.

Yep I felt I disclosed something last session with this new t and it was only second, session. I didnt talk about it, it was sort of a brief summary I wrote of things I diclosed to my old t, about csa, so she could get an idea, and in the future we could start from there.

so not only is it a BOOB lol its many body parts and im cringing, I dont want to go back.