Hi Littlemiss I'm guessing you mean something along the lines of:

If one was to just read the title of your thread on the forums, "Judgements or perceptions?", depending on how secure you were in yourself, it could be read as a personal attack based on the posts of the member on the forum? Like a hyper awareness to negative feedback?

These are usually all feedback coming from yourself, but you might not know why yet or a darkness you do not wish to embrace, which is important in helping you resolve it. When we decide to find who we are, the "self", we get to choose from everything we have learnt and experienced, and decide what we would like to keep and what others taught us but wasn't really us.

When you finally act only as our "self", you will realize there is an immense joy in just being you and every action flowing from it is an expression of you, permanent self validation feedback.

If in doubt, why not just ask, instead of wrestling with yourself, which may be in a very negative place and amplify the negativity?

The more comfortable you become with yourself, the less judgement even exists. All human life is equally valuable and you are living according to what you are and want to be.If anyone else thinks they are in some way better than you and able to judge you, they have yet to find them self. How can an apple judge an orange for not being a perfect banana, like the apple is.The orange is just being an orange, so who cares about being a banana.Just be. Just be you- sweet , bright and healthy.