Because T is so good at getting me to flex my "independence muscle" (only a bit of sarcasm here - okay, maybe more than a bit), I feel like I have potential solutions to both of my problems that I may run by her if she agrees to a phone check in and will simply operationalize myself if she does not.

Solution to mentor-figure telling me some personal childhood stuff that I'm not sure I was super comfortable with (about her father never allowing her or her siblings any privacy and her mother putting her in a corner for a few hours whenever she didn't want to go to church and her always feeling like a grownup when she was a kid): when I see her on Monday or Tuesday, I will simply ask why she told me this stuff because I have a need for greater transparency in this relationship. Once I understand her motivation, I will be able to make a better judgement about my own comfort level and decide what I'm willing to share with her and what I'm willing for her to share with me.

(T was also helpful with this yesterday; she told me that my feelings of discomfort around this were normal and that she would have felt the same way, and her reaction would probably have been the same, like, "If you're telling me this, a) why, and b) what aren't you telling me?" So this problem is pretty much solved for the moment.)

Solution to mother problem where I ended up getting really angry and bringing up all the stuff she did to me six years ago and she ended up denying it: now that this stuff has been out in the open, we can't just go back to pretending it never happened. The pain is still there, and I need her to hear it. I need to say it to her, even if she will never understand it fully. I want to do a session with me and her and T. I'm sure T will be okay with it; if my mom isn't okay with it, I'm not sure whether this will be a deal breaker or not, but things can't just go back to the way they were. Even if the session doesn't accomplish anything constructive, I need to tell her how I'm feeling in a supportive environment and I need her to hear that pain.

But I also then need to call her either tomorrow or Friday and make up with her, tell her I still love her and want a relationship with her, but we need to talk this out, and we need to talk it out with T. I don't know how I should respond if she's not okay with that, but these are my ideas.

Thoughts?