Your mum sounds very much like mine! especially about the not wanting you to be depressed in her home and having to walk on eggshells and everything having to be her way and the 'I told you so' and rubbing any mistakes in your face!

I believe my mother is narcissistic and had to cut contact with her a couple of years ago to protect my own mental health. Her phoning me and having a go at me when I was severely depressed was the last straw, even after I had forgiven her for calling me a 'slut' cos she didn't like my boyfriend (who is now my husband!).

So no I don't believe you are wrong to feel hate, you are being emotionally abused so what else are you to feel?

If you can find somewhere else to stay then do that. Could you afford a motel? I don't think you would get the money back from your mum. Could your girlfriend chip in?