Should I cut my mother out or am I in the wrong?

A little back story, I am 30 year old male. My ex fiance ended our 8 year relationship in April 2013 ( she wanted the party life, I didn't). Needless to say I pretty devastated for a couple of months mainly because she slept with all of my friends and then proceeded to move in with my neighbor, before finally moving back to her home town. Anyway, My mother and I have never been really close. The whole time me and my ex was together, my mother only set foot in my house 5 times tops. Her and my ex got along really well too. My mom rarely called me, only asked me to go on the family vacation twice in 8 years. After the break however, She was right there telling me to get over it and move on. Telling me what I should do, of course I didn't listen. Turns out she was right about a lot of the stuff and I messed up and told that I should of listened to her. The "I told you so's" ( in various wording) poured in for months after that. Then she was constantly reminding me of how I screwed up and who my ex is sleeping with now. Fast forward to last week, she calls me and and tells me her and my step-dad are having money troubles and want to borrow 300 dollars. She is my mom of course I give it to her. The last straw comes from tonight, I finally got a good apartment in a different county, so I can start fresh with my new girlfriend and my new life. The trouble is it won't be ready until the middle of march and I have to be out of my house by 28th. I exhausted every option available to me and I had to ask my mom if I can stay with her for 2 weeks. The first week, I will most likely be sleeping due a minor surgery I am having. My mom flips out stating that me and my step-dad won't get along and how I won't get any sleep because he gets up at all hours of the night. How I will have a bed time and I have to do my sisters chores. How I won't be able to work out. She even said "if you stay you are not allowed to be depressed, I don't want that in my home." You need to think this through some more, give yourself another month. It goes on with her finally saying at the end "your my only son, I would never tell you couldn't stay with me to help yourself. I walk on eggshells when I talk to my mom, if it's not rainbows and unicorns or her way, it turns into an argument. I am to the point where I am truly starting to hate her. I haven't been depressed in months, this is the happiest I have ever been. I know what I want and I am going after it. Am I wrong for feeling hate toward her? ( my sisters are 25 and 18, I haven't lived at home since I was 16.)

Wow -- could you get your $300 back from her and stay in a motel? It sounds ridiculous to me that she takes your money but then can't let you crash for two weeks when you have another apartment lined up.

I don't think you are wrong to feel the way you do. I'd want strong boundaries with her too.

Your mum sounds very much like mine! especially about the not wanting you to be depressed in her home and having to walk on eggshells and everything having to be her way and the 'I told you so' and rubbing any mistakes in your face!

I believe my mother is narcissistic and had to cut contact with her a couple of years ago to protect my own mental health. Her phoning me and having a go at me when I was severely depressed was the last straw, even after I had forgiven her for calling me a 'slut' cos she didn't like my boyfriend (who is now my husband!).

So no I don't believe you are wrong to feel hate, you are being emotionally abused so what else are you to feel?

If you can find somewhere else to stay then do that. Could you afford a motel? I don't think you would get the money back from your mum. Could your girlfriend chip in?

I wouldn't loan, another dime, to them. Can you place hop, during those two Weeks?

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