I was in a very physcilly and emtionally absuvie realtionship for two years... and it has been two years and I've been with someone else for that time.. truth is your always going to think about the things that he put you through. But honestly the best thing you can do is start talking to other men... and belive me I know that sounds nasty ... but you don't have to jump on the first guy you see.. but seriously talking to other men or even male friends can give u a understanding of how awlful the ex really was and you will find yourdelf wondering why you would spend another day with him. The damage isn't going to go away.. but once finding someone who isn't absusive... you realize that there are other people...and that your old relationship wasn't normal and you don't have to deal with that... easier said than done but seriously not trying to sound weird... talking to other men (not even have to date them) will make you feel wanted and not constantly being brought down like before because I understand