Ways to get over a break up from an abuser?

I want to know what helped you get over a break up from someone who was emotionally or physically abusive. Right now I'm dealing with being broken up with someone who was/is emotionally abusive. I'm scared I'm not ready and I'll go back and go thru it all over again. I don't want that. Any advice is welcomed.

Hey there HappyOne4U

I feel for you and send you big hugs

I understand only too well the fear that you'll return combined with the pull to do so.

The things that helped me get my life back and stay away were therapy, talking to a trusted friend about what I'd been through and slowly but surely realising that it was horrendous to be treated like that and I deserved better.

I also found reminding myself often of the consequences of returning helped reinforce my need to stay away.

I wish you well in your journey to your new life and FREEDOM

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Recognizing, they aren't your friend. Anyone, willing to cut you down to size, isn't your friend.

I'd posted in Rel//Comm, a bit. Being ready to walk completely away, before you actually do, will help.

I forget the statistics, but will take a victim more than two dozen attempts to leave, before they actually can, emotionally speaking.


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Thank you so much! I keep reminding myself what bad things will happen if I return and thats what helps the most. It finally took me 3 years to realize that the way he was treating me wasnt right. I am so glad to be able to start living my life, thank you so much!

You are so right. Ive walked away at least a dozen times before I finally realized that enough if enough. Someone that truly loves you supports you, they don't bring you down.

I was in a very physcilly and emtionally absuvie realtionship for two years... and it has been two years and I've been with someone else for that time.. truth is your always going to think about the things that he put you through. But honestly the best thing you can do is start talking to other men... and belive me I know that sounds nasty ... but you don't have to jump on the first guy you see.. but seriously talking to other men or even male friends can give u a understanding of how awlful the ex really was and you will find yourdelf wondering why you would spend another day with him. The damage isn't going to go away.. but once finding someone who isn't absusive... you realize that there are other people...and that your old relationship wasn't normal and you don't have to deal with that... easier said than done but seriously not trying to sound weird... talking to other men (not even have to date them) will make you feel wanted and not constantly being brought down like before because I understand

I used this book & CD and it really helped
I Can Mend Your Broken Heart by Paul McKenna

Love should feel like love.