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Originally Posted by marmaduke
HazelGirl
Good advice, he has serious issues. He is using your insecurity to manipulate and control. This other girl is irrelevant to him, if she was important to him he would still be with her (unless she left him?) He is deliberately pushing your buttons for the drama .
In fact, you should leave him! that would give him a shock!
If you want to stay, work on yourself, build your self esteem. Next time he says hes gonna leave say 'OK, if that what you really want, call his bluff. He won't go, and if he did it frees you up to find someone nice who doesn't f##k with your head.
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It doesn't matter if he has a personality disorder or not. I have a personality is disorder and would never treat someone this way.
The reason WHY he behaves this way doesn't matter. Whether it is an intentional manipulation doesn't really matter, either.
What matters is that when she is mentioned you feel disrespected, that's why you blow your top over it! Its an upsetting topic and he knows it really bothers you. Why bother wasting time trying to figure out the pathology of someone who doesn't respect you?
What you do about the situation is up to you. How do you expect to be treated? Is the relationship worth saving? What are you getting out of this relationship? Are the feelings and frustrations you endure worth it?
Weigh the pro's and con's.
Only you can answer these questions and do something about it. Not everything is up to him. Only you have the power to build your own life within or without this relationship.