I depend on T to be there for my sessions, and to listen and be consistent and not judge me, to keep everything I say confidential, and to apply his experience and knowledge in order to help me - in a word, to do his job. I think that's as far as it is realistic for me to take it. A therapy goal for me is to not need the kind of help that only T can provide, in terms of emotional support, so can't let myself become dependent on that support - it has to be an optional extra.