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Originally Posted by TheOriginalMe
I've never figured out how to make friends and sometimes get horribly lonely. I've been more lonely in this episode of depression than ever before. I don't understand why I never connect with people, I can talk with anyone, but it is just conversation, I wish I could understand my lack of connection.
I understand your feelings and can empathise, I wish that you didn't have to suffer this too.  |
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Originally Posted by Lorn
I've often been lonely because I don't bond the way other people do or enjoy the same types of socializing. However, I've found exceptions. Talking to anyone at all and expecting a connection won't work, but especially online if I make a point of being genuine I can attract the attention of people who communicate the same way and enjoy the things that make me feel connected to others.
Surface conversations are really only enjoyable if I'm in a playful mood, and nice words from strangers often make no difference to me because they're in no position to know what kind of person I am. I really enjoy the mental connection of debating or exploring a topic with someone unusual who isn't going to be offended.
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Originally Posted by Libraryuser
I feel most alone when I am having an anxiety attack or when I am in the black hole of depression. Both conditions make me want to isolate AND need people. It's a push and pull and it is very, very frustrating.
Ultimately, I really do want to connect with other people and have meaningful, functional relationships. I'm not there yet and I continue to work on it in therapy.
I hope you can find connections here and beyond.
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I never understand whynI dont connect with people either. I had a great childhood, was brought up well and always had friends. I lost my engagement around 2008 and went into straight manic depression. I will never find anyone like that again so I basically gave up. I always thought life was about starting a family, working, all that stuff.
Now years later im practically socially disabled. So detached from the outside world. I dont have anything to offer anyone. Whos gonna want to be with someone who isolates. For some reason I look at people sometimes and they are smiling and look happy and I wish I was like that. My whole outlook on life is different now. Its like im just wasting away in the house. Who wants to be with someone who is sad, doesnt like to go out, low self esteem, I just cant see soneone wanting that and its sad.