I think it is important at least for me to understand that I cannot force understanding on people. They are not where I am in life. I will be there for them if they get sick because I already know how it is. That I had no one is just how life is, unfair. My burden is for me only to carry, because life has decided that for me. I can make myself feel worse by thinking some nature of universal balance "should" give me a helping hand. But in reality I know if this is just for me to handle alone, I'd better just accept it.