I agree. I was devastated when I lost my relationship with someone who was emotionally abusive. It wasn't even my choice. My problems lasted much longer than 4 weeks... I was heartbroken and lost, and kept remembering good things. Finally now, I seldom think of him and when I do I'm about 98% glad I'm not with... maybe more. And I feel JUST SO LUCKY I never got married. My relationship was very longer term (over 4 years) and it took me well over year to get this way... worth the time though.

COMPLETELY worth the time and pain, because I can learn and watch for the same mistakes. I used to think like you did... about the good things. Now I realize that's not even worth it.