It's been four weeks.

It's been four weeks since my partner left me...I only just ceased all communications with him two days ago and I feel absolutely alone and lonely. EVen though he was abusive and a liar and a cheater, all I remember are the good times...everything reminds me of him...They say it gets easier, it's been four weeks of feeling like absolute lonely crap, when does it improve?

They say time heals all wounds. Time to get busy doing other things and and who knows, you may find someone much better sooner or later.

I think it depends on how much you invested in the relationship, the more I invested the longer it took to get over. I hope you find that you can move on soon, but cutting off communication for good is a sensible move otherwise you'll just keep picking at the scab and reopening the wounds. While it is only natural to take some time to grieve and remember the good times don't lose sight of the reasons this relationship ended. Maybe you need to create some good memories that don't involve him, if you can, get out and do something exciting and new, something that you've always wanted to do.

Things will get better, but how long that takes is up to you. Sorry, I know that's not very helpful. Be strong.

Thank you, it really does help! Thank you so much

I agree. I was devastated when I lost my relationship with someone who was emotionally abusive. It wasn't even my choice. My problems lasted much longer than 4 weeks... I was heartbroken and lost, and kept remembering good things. Finally now, I seldom think of him and when I do I'm about 98% glad I'm not with... maybe more. And I feel JUST SO LUCKY I never got married. My relationship was very longer term (over 4 years) and it took me well over year to get this way... worth the time though.

COMPLETELY worth the time and pain, because I can learn and watch for the same mistakes. I used to think like you did... about the good things. Now I realize that's not even worth it.

Mine was just over four years as well :/ it's hard, but thank you for giving me the courage that'll end one day!

Four weeks is not very long at all, not if it was a relationship that meant a lot to you. After being married for many years, there really wasn't even anything left between my now ex and I but even so, when she left, it took at least a year for me to even start feeling ok with being alone again. How much more if you still cared about the guy?