Being open to what your therapist says versus just doing what your therapist says because they say it and not having an opinion of your own what you think and want to do, that could look codependent to me. Who did your T say you were codependent with?

Asking other people their opinions and what they think and what they think you should do, etc. and not looking at a situation and deciding what you think and want to do about it (it is your life, not anyone else's) and then doing what you decide for yourself; how did you get going to Codependents Anonymous, for example, without thinking/knowing if you are codependent and what you wanted to get out of the experience? Just "going" there won't help you, whether you are or are not codependent.